Astrology in Action 1 – Abusive Mother - Father?

Continuing on our journey from the previous blog “The principles of astrology” Eve made a great comment regarding my interpretation of her planetary combination of Moon-Mars-Saturn. My interpretation is based on the Sun representing the father and the Moon the mother. However, Eve felt that because Moon (emotions) - Mars (masculine) was in the 7^th (Relationships) was in a square aspect to Saturn in 10^th (Father/Career) the expression of this aspect would be more to do with the father relationship. I would agree that it does have something to do with her relationship with her father however; the Moon represents the mother in the astrological chart therefore the interpretation. All aspect act on different levels. For instance the Moon-Mars would show a mother to be very protective (Moon), fighting (Mars) for their child against the father (Saturn in 10^th house). It would also demonstrate that living with Eve’s father would have been very difficult and tense (Moon-Mars-Saturn) so not surprising her mother suffered from deep depression (Moon-Saturn) and tried to escape the frustration and difficulties of a controlling husband (Mars-Saturn -10^th house). Eve worked in a family business with her father - Moon (family) – Mars (enterprise) square to Saturn (father) in 10^th house (Career)...be it a frustrating experience (Mars-Saturn) of battling (Mars) with a controlling (Saturn) father.

Ok, so did you have a difficult relationship with your mother or father? Let’s look at some planetary combinations – if you know your chart take a look while reading this blog and see if it makes sense. First of all what is your sun sign? This represents your father’s personality which will be greatly influenced by the planetary aspects it receives from other planets at birth. So let’s look at some difficult planetary aspects and see if they make sense. Sun-Moon - conflict between father (Sun) and mother (Moon) so unsettled childhood due to difficult marriage. If your Sun makes a difficult aspect to the other planets e.g. Mars (violent), Jupiter (excess e.g. alcohol), Saturn (authoritarian), Uranus (abrupt changes), Neptune (absent), Pluto (abuse/controlling)...By using extremes of behaviour it makes it easier to learn the basic principles of what is happening. This does not mean that everyone with a negative Sun aspect with Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune or Pluto will necessarily experience the above but they will experience some fundamental challenging relationship with the father depending on the type of energies in action. Let’s now look at a combination. Sun-Venus: (note that this aspect can only be a conjunction aspect 0-8 degree a part). In a female chart this represents daddy’s little girl, demonstrating affection, love, support, encouragement – he child adores her father. However, if we mix it up a bit the picture dramatically changes. If the Sun-Venus was in a difficult planetary aspect with Mars or Pluto then these planets would create a platform for sexual abuse and emotional-sexual-power struggles. Neptune and Uranus can also be associated with sexual abuse usually through glamour and deception (Neptune) or Uranus (unconventional relationship with father), although Uranus and Neptune may show different forms of expression such as the father is an absent parent (Neptune) and the child creates a fantasy of the father figure making him perfect in every way..but when he appears on the scene she becomes disillusioned as he turns out be quite different – may be turning to alcohol or drugs. Uranus shows the father disappearing suddenly and unexpectedly! Perhaps never to be seen of again. Saturn would create the unloving father who cannot demonstrate affection and will make it challenging for the child to building satisfactory relationships with men...as well as poor self-esteem and the frustration of not been able to attract men easily. Usually women who have suffered bad abuse from their fathers may turn to women for a partner rather than a man..or even someone they feel they can rescue from a difficult past.

So what about the mother, again you need to find out your Moon sign to demonstrate your mother’s personality.. if the Moon (mother) makes a difficult aspect to Mercury (movement) the child would experience a restless childhood which may have had a negative impact on their education (Mercury) due to moving house (Moon) regularly. Moon-Venus may show a lazy mother or one that is jealously her daughter’s good looks and charm. While men with this may suffer with problems concerning affection especially if this aspect is influenced by Mars (abusive), Saturn (strict-cold mother), Uranus (mother walks out!), Neptune (mother as victim – alcohol/drugs or Pluto (controlling mother – manipulative)..obviously with some of these planetary combinations males find it difficult to have a satisfying marriage or long term relationship if they have encountered such a challenging upbringing...and in some case men go on to abusing women..still dealing with the childhood problems.

However, this blog is to explain why some of us have challenging parent issues in later life and how they can affect our relationships in adult life. Although the whole chart needs to be assessed before any conclusion can be decided anyone with the challenging aspects mentioned in this blog will find it difficult to imagine parents who were caring, supportive, loving and affectionate. However, this does not mean that everyone with such a past needs to continue a road of disillusionment or disappointment in relationships in adult life...there is always a way of breaking through the past and to lead a very positive and happy life...I could have written pages on this blog...but thought I would leave it to other to chip in...be great to hear your comments and experiences that you can share.