Understanding a relationship crisis through astrology

Relationships are a key aspect to life, whether we love, hate or fear them. Everything is great when we feel such a unique connection with a partner. If we hit bad times economically this usually puts a strain even on the best relationships, however some of us are mystified when out of the blue someone breaks up with us and our world becomes a fearful and terrible place. Some of us may just accept the traumatic changes we experience while others may seek a solution to see if we can get things back on track or perhaps more damagingly we cling desperately to the relationship like we will die if we let go.

For some of us we experience repetitive negative astrological patterns through our life making the same decisions and attracting the same type of partner/destructive relationship..our brain is saying I must change but emotionally we carry on a journey of self-destruction or the illusion of perfection.

For this blog I would like to give you an astrological perspective of a relationship crisis using the planets of change, illusion and transformation Uranus, Neptune and Pluto.

When our life is turned upside down such as losing a job, a death of a loved one or the breakup of a major relationship Uranus, Neptune or Pluto may be influencing your astrological chart because these are the planets that transform lives through crisis. They are a catalyst to opening us to see new opportunities or learning something new about ourselves that was hidden. Sometimes it is only through pain and crisis that we change or see things differently.  However, we first we have to let go of something we treasure or something we have outgrown – if we cling to the past and familiar it can be a very painful experience. It is rare for any of us to see the positive side of what feels is such a traumatic experience. Instead we become interwoven with feelings of despair and suffering. The light at the end of the tunnel is barely visible and no matter what someone tells us we still live in a place of fear, rejection and low self-esteem. At this low point we either want things to go back to how they were - clinging to our last grasp. However just when we are about to lose hope and faith suddenly something changes within us, a glimmer of hope or a small action that take engages us in the world again as we see a glimmer of light...the sun is rising...it’s a new dawn and a new day and the start of a new life. Before we know it we start to reflect on our spiritual journey of pain and suffering, but for some reason we don’t feel the same way. Instead we have changed our perspective of the world and start to live our life with wonder and excitement as we embark on another glorious journey of self-discovery. However, for some of us that have deeper psychological issues may feel trapped, bitter, angry, resentful and judgemental.

Although Uranus, Neptune and Pluto bring personal crisis how does this work through our astrological chart?

Uranus – Shock, sudden awakening, independence, unconventional

Neptune- Illusion, perfection, fantasy, deception, victim, saviour

Pluto – Death, transformation, obsession, compulsion

Ok so let’s link these planets with Venus (harmony/love/affection) obviously the interpretation will alter depending on the planets position in the chart by sign and house position and by planetary aspect.

I also look at transiting planets of Uranus, Neptune and Pluto (Transits are planets that impact your chart on a daily basis) All aspects are interpreted in a relationship context

Venus – Uranus

Harmony may be expressed through unconventional attachments and they love the excitement of the start of a relationship...but may not be good for the long term unless the excitement is maintained...Uranus does not like people getting too close or they push them away. This is usually because they fear rejection or just love variety. You and your partner may live is separate homes but still love each other...a good aspect for long distance relationships.

Transiting Uranus to Venus

You may meet someone new, suddenly or unexpectedly – they may blow you away with excitement! In an existing relationship you need to add something new or make it more exciting..sometimes this might happen by meeting someone else who is exciting and different – this makes your partner look very boring...or you may be on the end of rejection by your partner walking out suddenly or they may want space and time on their own. Divorce or separation or being apart for some reason is also likely e.g like a partner has a new job and needs to work away from home.

Venus – Neptune

They are true romantics, a person who is easily influenced by glamour, fantasy and perfection.

Their criteria for when selecting a partner. Everyone they fall in love with is the person they will spend the rest of their life with. On the other hand they may seek spiritual love and platonic relationships, transcending the relationship to a higher level..only later to disillusioned that their Guru is a conman/woman. When Neptune is involved with any planet there is always a sense of unreality, deception or self-deception. You might be the saviour seeking partners who have had challenging issues in their past – or you might become the victim gaining attention from others with a tall of woe...all men are bad!!

Transiting Neptune to Venus

It seems so perfect everything about him/her – and such a powerful connection...yet as time passes the imperfections emerge from the surface creating disillusions, self-deception and confusion. You might just fantasise about someone but always afraid to ask them out because they might reject your advances or shatter the illusion of the perfect lover. However, this could be the most romantic time of your life where love blossoms and emotional fulfilment reaches the highest level – although difficult to maintain. This aspect is typical for the clandestine affair (deception) or a relationship that is kept secret - this may add to the excitement. This is also a time when we could feel most portrayed through an unfaithful partner or finding out some indiscretion that cannot be healed – yet tormented emotionally by the memories.

Venus-Pluto

Intense relationships – fated to meet! Perhaps even love each other before in a past live but have met again to resolve past issues. Relationships are driven by sexual intensity – undercurrents of powerful feelings. It’s like if you leave you partner for a moment you might die..only when you are together are you alive – such intensity emerges feelings of jealously and possessiveness. Sometime this aspect can develop into a battle field of power, emotional blackmail or at worst violence even rape. Pluto brings out the dark side of our nature or the skeleton from the family closet!...some people with this aspect find it difficult to have a normal sex life (if there is such a thing)..or sex is taboo. A stalker may have this aspect due to its connection to obsession and compulsion.

Transiting Pluto to Venus

Old relationships die and new ones begin, sometime through a secret affair or chance meeting with someone. It’s about transforming your perspective on relationships, perhaps the awakening of your darker side where you explore your deep sexual/emotional drives...quite intoxicating, compulsive or it becomes an obsession. People usually find it very difficult to separate from their loved ones under this aspect and usually apply desperate measures to hold on to them because unconsciously they think they will die without them. Sometimes someone close actually dies creating feelings of powerlessness - your feelings will be over whelming and intense. The process is usually about letting go and making a new beginning with a fresh perspective.

The above descriptions are just some possible outcomes I am sure other members will suggest others. Importantly you need to view the whole astrological chart (using your full birth date, time and place of birth) before making any suggestions..but at least it gives you a brief guide of understanding a relationship crisis through astrology.